Things that are funny are almost always fun. But things that are fun are not always funny.. Most of us confuse these two.

It’s easy, and dangerous, to forget the distinction; when we focus on trying to elicit laughter we can quickly get discouraged because trying to create laughter puts a lot of pressure on us. Especially when some of us are not naturally good at telling jokes or being outwardly silly. Even if we are naturally good at it, focusing on laughter is still a mistake because it causes us to prematurely focus on the outcome rather than the process of humor. Laughter is a result, while fun is a process. Funny is an action, while fun is an attitude.

Taking Yourself More Lightly

Be a child:

What games did you enjoy when you were 5 to 10 years old, when you were having fun naturally. Think of 10 specific examples of games you enjoyed and then ask yourself, “How many of them involved active imagination and physical movement?” You know, most of the games on your list involved both.

Make fun happen today:

Take the list you made in Step One and update each game to a version you might be able to play currently. Can you think of an adult version of hide and seek, tag, or playing with dolls? How about trying to avoid direct eye contact with your boss when she’s looking for someone to work overtime this weekend, playing “phone tag,” or trying on clothes at the mall?

Have Your Fun:

Give yourself permission to have fun and back it up with a commitment to have 15 minutes of it each day.

Have Fun All The Time:

Weave it into everything you do, even if you are the only one who knows you are having it. To do this I want you to get in the habit of regularly asking yourself the most important question possible: “Am I having fun?” When the answer is “no,” do something to fix that right away!

A.Finish the activity as quickly as possible without lingering over it.

B. Do whatever you can, mentally, to make a game out of it.

C. Compensate yourself for tolerating the situation for as long as you had to.